Omg! Meet The Woman Who Lets Her Man Cheat Just To Stop Him From Leaving Her

I went cold after reading this woman's story. I mean, can you allow your partner/spouse sleep with another person just so he/she doesn't leave you? Can you go that far to keep your partner?

Maria-Louise (left) allows her man, Tim, (right) sleep with other women just to keep him (Photo: Paul Webb and DailyMail UK)

Well, 57-year-old Maria-Louise has done that, severally. The divorcee was twice married to men who refused to have sex with her until she met her present boyfriend, Tim, while she was still married to her second ex husband.

According to 55-year-old Tim, he has the "right" to have sex with "any" woman he likes.

Read Maria's full story as published by DailyMail below..

When I received a late-night call from my lover inviting me to his home, I was already tucked up in bed. Giddy with excitement, I slipped into my best silk underwear, got into my car and made the quarter-of-an-hour journey to his house.

I’d been seeing Tim for four years, but his shift work as a doctor meant that it was rare that we’d get to spend the night together.

When I pulled into the drive of his pretty three-bedroom detached cottage, the door opened and my 53-year-old tall, dark and handsome boyfriend greeted me with open arms.

We walked towards his huge, warm kitchen, arm-in-arm — yet the moment I passed over the threshold I froze at the sight of an attractive 20-something woman sitting brazenly at Tim’s kitchen table.

Calmly, I sat down and tried to make polite conversation while they finished a bottle of wine. I tried not to react when the young woman, Lucy, brushed her hand up and down his arm.Why didn’t I react? The honest truth is that as a woman in my late 50s, I no longer feel I can.

 Desperate not to be alone, I have to accept a relationship on any terms offered to me. At my age, the brutal truth is that I feel I can’t afford to be choosy. It’s sad, but true.

At 2am, Lucy announced she was tired, and I watched, flabbergasted, as she walked up the stairs. I looked at Tim, my heart breaking into a million little pieces.

He urged me to go upstairs, too, casually adding: ‘We’ll go upstairs, we’ll go to bed and we’ll invite her to join us.’This was too much, so, managing to control my tears, I haltingly explained that I, a then 55-year-old woman, wasn’t available for such tawdry threesomes and left with a heavy heart.

Two years on, we’re still together. For six years now I have been in the most significant, loving relationship of my life with Tim. We’re a couple, but in order for us to exist as such, I must allow him to sleep with whoever he likes whenever he likes.

You may wonder why I, a successful career woman (I was a sales executive for most of my life) who owns a detached, mortgage-free £250,000 cottage, would put up with such disgusting behaviour from a man who claims to love me. But the truth is today, at 57, my chances of finding anyone else are so remote that I’ve no choice but to accept it.

After all, as I revealed in the Mail five months ago, I was a virgin until I was 51: even though I was married twice before I met Tim, both my husbands had refused to have sex with me.

Then, two years into our relationship, Tim made it crystal clear to me that fidelity was out of the question. Since we’ve been seeing each other, to my knowledge, he has slept with three other women.
When I returned home that evening, I burst into tears. I didn’t know what to do. Create a scene? I knew I’d lose him. Challenge him? I wasn’t in a position of power to lay down the law. Have him followed? What would that achieve?

As a woman over 50, I just didn’t feel I could make a fuss.By now, I was menopausal and staring down my sixth decade. At 48, he was a handsome man in his prime. I genuinely believed if I pulled him up over his behaviour he’d dump me.

So I held my tongue. Then, in January 2009, almost a year after we began seeing each other, I pressed him about ‘our’ future. His divorce was under way, as was mine, the paperwork being processed was just a formality. We were free to be together, so surely that would put an end to his wandering eye?
So I raised the subject of fidelity and how important it was to me. Oh, how I wish I hadn’t.

Second husband: Maria-Louise met Tim while married to Carol, pictured on their 1995 wedding day (Photo: Paul Webb)

According to Tim, he had the ‘right’ to have sex with who he liked. Hiding my shock, I explained that, for me, sex is the closest two people can possibly be, and that making love was an expression of my feelings for him. He merely replied it was better for me that I knew this was how it was going to be. Defeated, I said I’d accept it, as long as he was discreet. What other choice did I have?

After that conversation in 2009, life was, on the surface, wonderful. We’d enjoy long nights together, cooking wonderful meals and listening to jazz. If he slept with other women, well, at my time in life, what could I do but turn a blind eye?

Of course, that’s not to say it was easy. There were those moments when we were making love when I’d compare myself unfavourably with the other women he was inevitably seducing at the same time.
But I forced my anxieties to the back of my mind and quietly started to make plans for our future.

With my divorce finally through in 2010, I sold the marital home and hired an architect to build a family home for us. Tim has two children by his ex-wife, a 20-year-old daughter and a 14-year-old son, and I wanted them to be a part of our future, too.That night when he tried to make me sleep with him and another woman, however, threatened to destroy everything.

It forced me to take stock of the stark realities of my partner’s infidelity. I took an STD and HIV test, a sobering, not to mention humiliating, ordeal to put yourself through at 55.For months I tried not to call him, but after a while I just couldn’t help myself, but he wouldn’t take my calls and refused to see me.

The showdown came in February last year at his home. I told him I loved him and pleaded that I wanted him to reconsider his attitude towards fidelity.

He replied that it was out of the question: sex, according to Tim, is akin to browsing at the supermarket: one week he might fancy a rump steak, the next roast chicken. The choice was his to make.In floods of tears, I walked out. While continuing to oversee the house I’d planned for our future, I’d cry myself to sleep. I was lonely and acutely aware that as each day slipped by I was getting closer to 60.

Friends tried to pull me out of my gloom, reassuring me I was better off without him, that there were plenty of other men for an attractive woman such as myself. But the truth is that there aren’t.
This January, I turned 57. I was desperately lonely and in May I couldn’t take it any more. I called and begged him to take me back.

While friends are genuinely concerned that I’ve resumed our relationship, I’ve simply forced myself to accept that Tim will sow his oats when and with whom he wants to.

Today he’s 55 and I reassure myself he can’t go on doing it for ever. Granted, he’s handsome now, but sooner or later, women won’t want to sleep with him any more.

Things are back to normal between us and we’re a proper couple now, albeit one harbouring a rather tawdry secret.I cherish having someone to hold my hand and tell me he loves me. What he does when he’s not with me I would rather not know.

Instead, I focus on our future: sitting on the terrace of our new home that I built for us, growing old together. After all — what other choice do I have?

Source: DailyMail UK

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Relationships: 10 Things A Man Should Always Do For His Woman

This article is for you if you are a guy that is married or are in a very committed relationship with a woman.

If you love your girl and want to have a good relationship with her, then here is a list of ten things a man should do for his woman all the time in order to not only promote harmony and happiness but to show her you truly do love her.

1 - Talk to her.
One of the things women really want from their men is for him to talk to her. What this means is that she wants meaningful conversion with you. Tell her how you're doing; your hopes and dreams. Tell her what you're thinking about when she's not around. Tell her about what's on your mind, and listen to her when she responds.

2 - Touch her without expecting more.
Women like to feel like they are more than a receptacle for your desire. If you want her to know you love her for more than what she can provide, touch her in gentle ways. Rub her back or feet. Caress her cheek. Things like that.

3 - Open doors for her.  
Show her you not only love her, but cherish her as well by opening the car door for her before getting in yourself. Open the door at home for her too. Help her with her coat when she comes home. Get her chair for her when she sits down for dinner. All those corny things men used to do in movies. Do it and she'll see you mean it when you tell her you love her.

4 - Compliment her. 
Tell her how nice she looks. Or smells. Tell her what a great job she's done with dinner or in helping you with some errand. Tell her how important she is to you and how your life wouldn't be nearly as sweet were she not there to share it with you. Whenever she's done something well or special, tell her so she'll know you've noticed and appreciate what she's done.

5 - Cook for her. 
You might be the kind of guy that cooks for her all the time, but you're probably not. So, occasionally cook an entire meal for her while she relaxes in the tub or in another room. Set the table, cook the meal and then clean up afterward. She'll love that.

6 - Tell her you love her.
Most people don't tell the people they love often enough how much the other means to them. Break that tradition. If you truly do love her, tell her you love her at least once every single day. More is even better.

7 - Help her.
When you marry someone, you're agreeing to be with them through thick and thin. For better or worse. While generally people see that as being there through the hard times, it also means being there and helping with the small things. Like running errands, or reaching for something on the top shelf. Or buying her a stool for when you're not around. It means helping with the cleaning and the maintenance of the home. When you help her, you're making your life a team effort, and this is what builds strong bonds between couples.

8 - Do things with her. 
Quite often as time passes, couples begin to find more and more things that they like to do individually which leaves less time and energy for doing things together. Keep that from happening by choosing to make doing things together a priority. Go to the grocery store with her, or Christmas shopping. Find things you both enjoy doing for fun and do them. Make your life feel like you're both in it together no matter what is going on.

9 - Let her make her own decisions.
A lot of times men have a way of seeing things and come to decide that their way is right and any other wrong. This can result in men taking over a lot of the decision-making that goes on in the home. Fight this. If you make decisions without consulting your wife, you're silently telling her that her opinion doesn't matter to you, which generally leads to a loss of closeness between couples.

10 - Be dependable.
Most women have a need to feel like they can count on their men to come through for them when they need it. To ensure that your girl feels this way about you, be dependable in the small things. Be where you say you will be, when you say you will be. And if you say you are going to do something, do it. Don't let things slip away. It's the small things in life that add up to someone being considered dependable.

These ten things a man should do for his woman all the time are tips for men who are either married or in a serious committed relationship with a woman. If you are such a man, and wish to sow the seeds for a happy contented marriage, I hope these things will help you. Good luck.

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Relationships: "Who Cheats The Most? Men or Women?" Must Read!

"Who cheats the most? Men or Women?" This is a topic that leaves both parties arguing endlessly.

I get somewhat pissed each time I see people argue unreasonably over this topic. 

If you say every man is a cheat, how are you sure about that? Have you dated every single man in the world? If you say it's the women, I'll reiterate the same question, 'Have you dated every single woman in the world?

Come on guys. Let's stop being biased based on gender and tell the truth which is that, 'Both parties cheat!'

This morning, I was seeing a post on my friend's blog about the Oyakhilome's divorce saga. I decided to see the comments that followed and I saw the same topic being slightly tipped-in by a girl's comment.

In response to the divorce saga surrounding Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and wife, Anita, a blog reader, Atinuke Bello commented:

"Letting strange people interfer in ur marriage is a vip ticket to downfall,even if he's cheating,if u pray and u both sit and talk u'll work it out,think of ur children,I pray my future husband does not cheat on me,but if he does,I cannot kill myself,I'll only tell him not to give me disease,men it's in their gene to cheat."

See screenshot below:

Meanwhile, I was immediately impressed by the reply that followed.

A guy, Vizzy, replied:

"Same goes to women, nobody is perfect." 

Now, back to our discussion... the fact is that, both parties cheat with but it solely depends on a person's tendency of abstaining from it.

I'm not trying to deny the fact that men don't do it the most but hey, women shouldn't be exonerated here.

Men are naturally polygamous in nature but it depends on each man's ability to control himself - the latter also applies to women. It's a natural phenomenon as long as you're human but what makes you get irritated when it happens is that your ability to cheat is low so you see things from a different angle.

When someone's ability or desire to cheat is high, they see it as nothing. In fact, they do it in every relationship they're involved in and as such, it could reflect in their marital life.

Most men want to see what's beneath every skirt that walks pass them in as much as we have women that can't do a day without tasting a different honey stick.

Let me tell you something, not every girl prostitutes for money. There are some girls that can never be satisfied by one man. No matter how hard you try, your cock is just half way to satisfying them that is why most of them prostitute for sexual pleasure.

I was scrolling down my Facebook news feed recently when a girl out of heartbreak posted, "All men are dogs," my reply to her was "What specie is your dad :)?" and she interestingly picked offence.

You see? When you label all men as cheats, your dad is certainly inclusive. Don't condemn all men simply because your past boyfriends all cheated. Come on darling, there's one good guy out there.

I wouldn't say 'All women are cheats' simply because my ex-girlfriends all cheated on me. I'm just unlucky to have met the flirty ones.

When two contented parties of high morals and decent values meet, cheating is NEVER an option. They see one million persons in each other.

A real man won't love hundred girls in one way but a real man would love one girl in a hundred ways. Same applies to girls.

Well, I have loads to write on this topic but I'll stop here for now. Meanwhile, feel free to drop your comments below to express your opinion. But I'll stand on, 'both parties cheat.' Though men are a bit..... #CommentReserved ..LOL

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Ladies, How To Keep Your Man From Cheating

So, you've finally found Mr Right! Your Prince Charming! Now, you're scared other girls will want to snatch him from you.

The truth is, you can't stop a man from cheating by forcing him and monitoring his moves. A cheat will always cheat no matter what you do.

He's so cute and he treats you like a queen that you're just scared of loosing him. Well, the war has begun. Here's a few tips to help you win the battle.

Secure your territory mentally and emotionally:
If you have never meditated, had a prayer life or some kind of regular relaxation ritual, now is the time to start. These practices will help you to be a safe harbor for yourself and everyone around you, especially your man. Men are drawn like a magnet to a woman who seems to "have it all together", but repelled to one that seems to be an emotional wreck. We all know how tumultuous relationships can be, so mental and emotional stability is a must!

Secure him with a smile:
Men enjoy the company of a light spirited, energetic, witty, carefree, friendly yet classy gal with a subtle sense of responsibility and a bit of reliability. If you walk around with heavy shoulders and a tired looking face, you can bet that men will run from you.

Keep him around, make him know he's needed:
When you have your own life, you bring a breath of fresh air into the relationship. Yet do not make the mistake of handling everything yourself, let your man do his part and he will know that he is needed. When a man thinks he's not needed or his efforts appreciated, he becomes emotionally vulnerable to other women.

Mesmerize him, always:
Exercise hygiene, wear nice form flattering garments which don't necessarily have to be expensive. Keep your hair clean and neat. Make sure that your man never forgets what turned him on you in the first place, but be careful not to be stuck in time.Competition is tough out there and some women just want your man because he's taken and you can be sure they'll put up a fight.

NOTE: These tips are for ladies - how to stop your man from cheating. I will soon post for the guys - how to stop your woman from cheating. Just make sure you follow our blog regularly so you don't miss. [Source: Wikihow]

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Must See: Pastor Chris And Anita Oyakhilome's Wedding Photo

Pastor Chris and Anita Oyakhilome have been married for over 20 years now.

Chris and Anita Oyakhilome's wedding picture

Anita has filed for divorce citing 'unacceptable behavior' and 'adultery' as her reasons for wanting the court to dissolve their marriage.

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PHOTOS: See How This Guy Proposed To His Girl Publicly At Shoprite In Lagos, So Romantic!

This unknown guy created a scene at Shoprite in Ikeja, Lagos, when he proposed to his girl yesterday.

What do you think guys? Cool or Not Cool?

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Blog Reader Desperately Needs Help With Her Marital Issue, Please Read!

Dear Kay, I'm a regular reader of your blog. I'm a 36-year-old married woman who lives in Abuja.

I have been married for 6 years without an issue. Throughout our years of not having a child, my husband has always stood by me. We have always prayed together and believe God for a miracle.

Even when my mother-in-law told my husband to divorce me, he refused to do it because he loves me.

What baffled me most was when his younger sister visited us. She said all manner of words to me and laughed at me for not being able to have a child but my husband rebuked her and I will never forget what he did that night, he held my hands in tears and assured me he will be with me in prayers until God answers us with a fruit of the womb.

Two weeks ago, my husband traveled on a business trip and decided to visit his father before coming home. He ended up spending two days and when he returned, he changed.

He suddenly started shouting at me and picking offence at every little thing I do.

Last night, I cried my heart out when he opened up to me that he has decided to marry a second wife. I can't imagine myself living as a second wife, moreover, it is a sin before God.

Dear, KayNaija readers, please advice me because my marriage is coming to an end. I don't know what to do, please help.

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How To Make A Long Distance Relationship Work

It is definitely risky to keep a long distance relationship and if the distance is significantly far then there's a great tendency of that relationship getting ruined.

However, it doesn't mean it is impossible to make a long distance relationship work - of course it can. Here are few tips to help you handle your long distance relationship and get the best out of it.

1). Trust
The most important factor that must exist between you two is Trust. Yes, I understand that it's a difficult thing to do because you have no idea what goes on over there but you also have to understand that a long distance relationship can never work without trust.

Try your best to avoid temptations and put in the same effort to remain faithful. Don't intentionally put yourself where you can possibly get tempted. Assure your partner that there's absolutely nothing to worry about.

Avoid putting pressure on your partner when you have no idea what they're doing. Give them a little space, it won't harm you instead, it will keep things calm.

2). Communicate Frequently
This is another key to a successful long distance relationship. Communicate daily if possible. Forget what happens in the world and talk more about yourselves. Even when you don't have sufficient call credits, a text message won't harm. Don't forget the magic words, "I love you" each time you communicate. It helps. Remember, whenever you forget to keep in touch, always make up for it whenever you communicate.

3). Have Patience
You signed up for this. So, you need to wait. Have patience and always be positive.

4). Visit Often - When Possible
Are you the type who's very busy with work? Yes, your partner might understand that but dear, you do need to make out time for a visit. At least, to make them feel what you have is real, not a blind relationship. Whenever you visit, try to spend every second on important and romantic things. Don't waste the time because it doesn't come always.

5). Make Sacrifices
Love requires sacrifices. Whenever you're alone, there will be lots of temptations and things that would want to make you give up but please, don't give up. You have to wait and believe. This is part of the major sacrifices you'll make. Always believe and hope that the lonely times will someday end and good times will come.

6). Support Each Other
That you're apart doesn't mean you can't support each other. Always make it possible for your partner to contact you whenever s/he is in trouble. Whenever they're in trouble but can't reach you, they begin to believe you're of no use thereby, wanting out of the relationship. Financial, moral and emotional supports also proves you care.

7). Don't Listen To Haters
Don't just involve third parties in your affair when there's no reason for that. Most of them are haters. They would try all they can to destroy your relationship and you'll only give room for that by listening to them.

A friend of mine who keeps a long distance relationship once asked me, "Kay, my best friend advised me to ditch my man over a fight we had on the phone, what do I do"?

The first question I asked her was, "Is she keeping a long distance or traditional relationship?" and the answer was "Traditional."

How can you you seek advise from someone who isn't in a long distance relationship? Of course they'll mislead you. They're having a different experience from yours and their doubts may not reflect your present predicament. Try to handle your issues wisely. If you must seek advise, evaluate the person before proceeding. Remember, haters are everywhere.

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4 Secrets To A Successful Relationship / Marriage

Relationships and marriages have their ups and downs, how do you deal with them? How much do you contribute to make it work? Here are 4 secrets to a successful relationship/marriage.

This is a simple but powerful guide on how to make your relationship/marriage a successful one.

1. Compromise
In a relationship, it's not just about taking but also giving. If you think you're not giving very much to help your relationship/marriage then you have to try and sniff out the areas to improve on.

A relationship is unequal when one side is taking much and giving less. Even if the giver has enough to offer, s/he will certainly feel bugged. At times, also contribute with the little you can. It shows seriousness and commitment.

2. Communication

Some relationships and marriages die due to lack of discussion. When you can't find a way to freely discuss your problems and emotions with your partner, then your relationship suffers a communication problem and doesn't have a chance to run on a long term.

As partners or couples, you must find a way to communicate freely, openly, regularly and directly. You don't have to wait for arguments before you speak your mind. You can always do that when you're in good terms. It helps. However, doing this in a good and respectful manner is the key to effective communication.

3. Choose Your Battles Carefully

Sometimes, after having a fight with your partner, you'll get to realize the reason for the fight wasn't worth it. Before you allow arguments or fights to ensue, make sure it is worth it. Don't fight over worthless issues.

Example, a friend recently called me on the phone, she asked, "Kay, I'm having a serious fight with my man and we can't seem to sort it out, what do I do?" First of all, I asked her what was the reason for their fight and funny enough they were fighting over football clubs. I just laughed her off my phone because that wasn't worth a fight.

Do you really want to start a fight with your partner because s/he bought you the wrong bathing soap? Do you want to fight him/her for mistakenly burning your shirt while ironing? Come on, there are many important things to fight over, not less important things.

These days, so many couples fight over the dumbest things. Try to avoid this.

4. Don't Underestimate Trust & Honesty

As humans differ, so as different people have different areas of concerns but it's understandable that everyone wants trust and honesty from their partner. Why? Because your partner should be the only person in the world you can fully depend on without doubts.

However, as long as trust and honesty issues are concerned, you have to understand when they matter most because virtually everyone tells a little lie (especially when dating).

Focus on big things that matters. Example, if they say they're a medical doctor and you later discover they don't even know the drug that fights headache, or if they claim they like kids but later refuse to have one with you.

Now, you have them - 4 secrets to a successful relationship or marriage.

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2 Simple Ways To Make Your Partner/Spouse TRUST You

A lot of us don't know the importance of trust in a relationship/marriage. The truth is, trust is the Key. No matter how you might love each other, your relationship/marriage will always be shaky if there is no trust.

However, one thing you have to know is that Trust is earned, not commanded.

If you had lost the trust of your partner, don't worry. In this article, I'll be revealing to you 2 simple things you should do to win back his/her trust or to improve and maintain the trust your partner already has for you.

(1). Call Him/Her Whenever You Go Out:
As simple as it seems, a lot of people don't know how this can play a huge part in earning their partner's trust.

When you go out, especially to somewhere that might make them panic, for example, you're boss' house, to see a friend, a party a friend invited you to, or wherever it might be that you're going alone, what you should simply do within intervals is pick up your phone and call partner/spouse. When s/he picks the phone, start with sweet words like "Hello Darling, Love, Boo..." or whatever sweet names you call yourselves then tell them you just called to remind them of how much you love and miss them.

Spend some quality time on the phone and talk moderately loud so they can know you aren't hiding from anyone. Sound sweet and make sure you end the call with "I love you, see you soon".

Tip: Don't forget to call him/her once you're on your way home.

(2). Full Access To Your Phone(s):
This is one simple way you can prove that you aren't cheating or that you have nothing to hide. If at all you're locking your phone(s) for some other security reasons, make sure your partner/spouse has the password(s). Be quick enough to give them the new password(s) whenever you change it due to being compromised by a third party.

Let's assume your partner locks his/her phone without giving you the unlock codes, you'll believe there's something 'smelly' going on, right? Good! Don't blame him/her for thinking the same way you would. If there's nothing to hide, simple leave your phones open and give them the access to use it anytime. Your phone is your center of connection. If you can do this, then you've just earned his/her trust.

Tip: Avoid doing whatever makes them scared, it kills trust.

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Ladies: 12 Ways To Make A Guy Go Crazy Over You

Hey ladies, here are 12 ways to make a man go crazy over you. Carefully read to the end then you'll pick something out of it.

1. Wear Nice Perfume:
This tip might sound silly or superficial, but believe it or not, guys like that women have signature scents. One of my old boyfriends actually still remembers mine from high school! Don't douse yourself with perfume, but pick a simple, flirty or s*xy perfume and apply just a little. Wear the same one each time you're around him. Unless he buys you a new one, which might signify he doesn't like the one you chose, chances are he'll love that you smell the same way each time you're around him. It's a sense of comfort, seduction and romance all wrapped up in one!

2. Don't Try To Change Him:
If you hate your guy's shoes or the way he wears his hair, but you sure do adore him, please just let him be! Don't try to play dress up with your guy or ask him to change his hair. He'll likely send you on your way if he's smart. If you don't like him for his odd tastes and all, then maybe you should reconsider what you're looking for in a guy.

3. Get To Know His Friends:
Guys will be loyal to their friends in the end, as should women too. No matter how much you might not really like what who he hangs around with, try your best to get along with them. If the relationship is harmed by the friendship, have a concerned, genuine conversation with him about it in a rational way. Don't just be rude to his friends.

4. Ask About His Family:
Be sure when you get into a relationship with a guy that you ask about his family. This will send him over the moon for you! You should genuinely care enough to ask him about his family, and by doing so, it shows you're not only interested in him, but also in the people he loves as well.

5. Show Him You're Responsible:
Be financially responsible, don't get drunk in public, and don't display yourself like a teenage girl trying to get attention. Showing you're responsible is a great way to hook a guy. You can still have fun and be responsible. No guy wants a long term thing with a girl that flies by the seat of her pants or can't even manage her paycheck.

6. Don't Be A Parasite:
Constantly sticking to a man and following him around is not going to make him want you more. You do not always have to be in front of him preparing yourself to do anything he wants. Therefore, it is important that you give him some space.

7. Don't Take His Place As The Man:
As much as I always talk about equality, there are some roles that you cannot do when you are in a strong relationship. When you allow a man to show his masculinity, he will take the lead. You should be thankful when he steps in and helps you in some way.

8. Give Support When Needed:
No matter how strong someone is, even men, there are always points in their life when they will need to have some type of support. When you see that he needs it, you should be there for him and help him out.

9. Always Look Pretty:
When many women get married, they let themselves go simply because they have already have their man. You should not let yourself go. If you went to the salon to get your hair done before you were married, then keep doing it. If you were smart when he first married you, then stay smart!

10. Jealousy:
I have seen many girls that try to spend as much time with their friends in order to make their guy jealous. This will drive him crazy thinking of those long hours with your friends. While I would never do this, there are some girls out there that will recommend this. Again, it all depends on who you are. The more he craves for your company, the more he is going to go crazy for you.

11. Be A  Good Listener:
One sure way to get a boyfriend is to pay attention to him. When he is talking, you should show him that you are interested in him by listening to him. Guys love it when they have a girl that cares about them and it drives them crazy. Don't be self centered and always talk about your desires and your life. Give him some space and let him speak his mind. Men like it when they are appreciated and praised for their actions.

12. Stay Unique:
There are many women out there that are attractive too. You need to do something that sets you apart from them. Find something that is unique and go with it.
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Types Of Women Every Man Wants.. Must Read!

Here is another educating piece from the stables of KayNaija. This time, we're talking about different types of women and the qualities in them that attracts men.

I'd like to shed some light on an issue that women have been puzzled about for centuries, and that is the attributes of a woman that attracts a man.

Men are attracted to women that are:

1). Confident
Confidence has to do with when you have your own opinion and can defend it, you are comfortable in your own words regardless of body size or whatever people around you might try to influence you with, then you are confident in yourself thereby, you have what it takes to attract men that admire women who posses a great deal of confidence.

2). Intelligent
This attribute is highly rated by men when searching for a partner/spouse. After a man has evaluated your looks, once he comes close to you, the next things he evaluates is how smart you are, how opinionated and articulated you are in thinking. Most men enjoy speaking to women who have their own point of views on subjects and are versatile in interesting topics.

3). Good Sense of Humor
If you can laugh at your man's boring jokes, wise cracks - you become someone he wants to get to know better. But if you're the type that easily gets upset when he jokes about your ragged hair or sloppy dressing, men will not find your personality as attractive as one who actually possesses this quality.

4). Supportive
Men find it easy to fall in-love with women that encourage and support positive undertaking they embark on. A man loves a woman that has the ability to see what he sees in the goals he pursues. Men believe that when you support their dreams and goals, you believe in their ability to accomplish those things that are dear to their heart. And when you support that which is dear to a man's heart, you automatically have the key to unlock his passionate love for you.

5). Patience
Talking about patience here, I'm referring to a woman's ability to be in a relationship with a man without pressurizing him into making any serious commitments he may not be ready or willing to make at a particular moment. Now, understand that there's a way to let a man know that you are interested in settling down with him without appearing desperate to him or without making him feel he's under any sort of pressure. This way, you still make him feel he ultimately reserves the decision to propose to you at his will.

Note that, there are lots of qualities that compels a man to choose a woman but these are just a few key attributes every serious woman out there should posses.

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TIPS: How To Find The Right Partner/Spouse.. Things You Must Consider!

Today, a lot of people seem to fall in-love with anyone they meet without following some guides, that's why they fall into failed relationships and marriages. There are certain factors you should consider when choosing a partner or a spouse.

Before choosing someone, you should first understand what you want in a person and want you don't want. This way, you can easily identify who suits you better.

Here, are some qualities you should look out for before falling in love, or before choosing your future spouse:


1). Consider The Qualities You What In A Partner:

Religion:
If you're Jewish and want to marry Jewish, "stick with your own kind" since not everyone who wants to marry a Jew will convert to Judaism.

Family values:
Are you dying to have five kids, or do you refuse to have children under any circumstances? Though people may change their minds more than you think, this is something to consider as you look for someone who shares your ideas (though you shouldn't talk about this right when you meet someone, obviously.)

Personality:
Though you can't predict someone's personality in advance, there may be a few things that are a must for you. Do you have a killer sense of humor and absolutely need a person who shares your love for laughter? Are you naturally a bit nervous and need someone who is more laid-back to center you? Keep this in mind as you look for the perfect person for you.

Attitude toward relationships:
Are you looking for someone who wants to spend every waking second with you, or do you want someone who really understands the meaning of "alone time"? This is more important than you think.

Social bearing:
Do you want someone who is fun and has a ton of friends around, or a person who is more reserved with just a few close and loyal friends? If you're a social butterfly and your special someone is more of a wallflower, you can bring out his social side -- or it can be a problem.

Similar interests:
Though the person you love probably shouldn't share all of your interests, or maybe not even many of them, you should still have a few interests that you both can share so you can keep your relationship going. If you're a novelist and your loved one refuses to read, or if you're a fitness instructor and he has never seen a gym, you may run out of things to talk about. But maybe not! This one is fluid.

2). Consider The Qualities You Don't Want:

Lack of attraction:
Physical attraction can grow, but it is not overrated. Though you may not want to rip off your husband's shirt fifty years -- or hey, a few years -- down the line, you should have a baseline of attraction that keeps things going. Even if the person fits the mold in all other aspects, sadly, you just can't force yourself to be attracted to someone.

Lack of agreement on something that really matters to you:
Example, if you're a die-hard football football and s/he hates it, there might be problem. But you never know -- you can have fun disagreeing about some other things. Generally speaking, if there's something that defines who you are that your future spouse absolutely doesn't understand, then you may have a problem.

Geographical incompatibility:
You may have found the love of your life, but he may live in Hawaii. If you literally live a world apart and neither of you will move under any circumstances, it won't work.

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MUST READ: 4 Things You Must Do To Keep Your Relationship / Marriage

The truth is, no matter how strong a relationship is, it has a breaking point. It is a natural thing that at the beginning, the love is always hot but as time goes on, you both begin to find faults.

Arguments and fights sets in but what matters most is how well you deal with it and the efforts you both put to avoid those things that can lead to a possible breakup.

Below are a few tips that will guide and help you preserve your relationship/marriage.

Every relationship has its breaking point, which is a fact. If you are afraid that your relationship is on the verge of one, you need to read this article. Let's face it, we usually have a hard time when it comes to making compromises and we tend to value our privacy more than we do our partners. So this may be the right time for you to do a reality check, analyze the problem areas and find out the best method for dealing with 'certain issues'.

1). Communication:
Communication is extremely important. It plays a key role in keeping a relationship/marriage alive. When communication is less, the feelings begin to die. Also, communication has to do with the things you say to your partner. Try to find out the reason why you said what you said to them. Trace the root and deal with it appropriately. For example, you might use some extremely harsh words on your partner because you feel s/he is cheating. Now, what you do is, deal with the jealousy and the way you approach the issue will automatically be friendly. Handle your communication skills properly, it's the key that bonds you both.

2). Don't Make Accusations:
When you notice something is going wrong, don't just jump into accusations, no matter how obvious it might be. Instead, approach your partner calmly. Talk to him/her decently by telling them what you observed. Don't accuse or they will quickly jump into defense and that way, you will end up in an argument and yes, you just started a fight. If you're good at writing, I'd suggest you drop a note or an SMS. Allow s/he read it while you're away. Hovering over them at this point is not advisable. Just walk away and let them read it, that way, it'll sink inside their head and there will be room for remorse. When s/he is done reading, you both can engage in a decent talk. Tell him/her your concrete observation then join heads to find a solution together. Remember, don't make accusations.

3). Appreciate Your Partner Often:
Invest time in telling your partner how much you love him/her. Don't do this once, let this attitude become a part of you. You can compliment them on how they look, speak, smile, etc.. The thing is, your partner just needs to feel loved and appreciated. Your partner needs to know you appreciate him/her. Don't just sit back and assume they know about it, everyone likes to be reminded they're loved, it's a natural thing. Learn to appreciate.


4) Don’t Lie:
The truth here is that everyone lies because it's in our nature as humans to lie. If you disagree to this then you just told a lie, Lol. However, this is never an excuse for you to lie to your partner, God knows I won't be responsible for that. Now, let me tell you a fact you never knew, 'anytime you are caught in a lie, a little trust is taken away from you.' For a relationship to stay healthy and be successful, trust is certainly required. Try to be sincere. It's true that the truth hurts but it's better than comforting him/her with a lie. When you do something wrong, it's better you dance to the music instead of telling a lie to cover it up. Remember, don't lie.

ADDITIONAL TIP:
Don't try to solve a problem when you're angry/upset, you won't get it right. I understand that feeling you have when you're raged and it's like it's almost impossible to calm down but trust me, you can. Whenever you're angry, be kind enough to remember what this article says, 'Calm down before attempting to resolve a problem.' If you won't listen to me then answer this question, 'Have you ever really resolved an issue with your partner while you're yelling at each other?' Think about it my friend.

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2 Main Reasons For Broken Marriages And How To Avoid Them, Must Read!

Getting married is one thing, another thing is staying married. In our today's society, the latter has turned out to be where most families fail. Keeping a marriage alive should be a collective effort of both parties and not a one person's effort.

Nobody wants to invite friends to their marriage ceremony only to get divorced after a couple of months or years. Everyone wants to get married and 'stay' married.

Here, we'll talk about 3 factors that are mostly behind most broken marriages and how such situations can be prevented.

1). A Submissive Wife And A Respectful Husband:
Just like the Holy Bible says, "wives, be submissive to your husbands. And husbands, respect your wives." This is one biblical law when not adhered to, gives birth to many dangerous family chaos. The Bible explicitly warns wives to be submissive to their husbands while husbands should respect their wives.

It is a natural thing that men always feel in control, that's how God created it. No matter who a woman might be out there, back home, she owes her husband all the respect, even if she earns a far higher income than him.

Being submissive here doesn't mean 'slavery.' It is a mutual thing because the husband in return respects her as demanded by God. When you start making your husband feel lesser, thereby, projecting the scenario that you're in control, you're putting your marriage/home at risk of breaking down.

A wife that wins all arguments with her husband is not wise. The home is not a law court. Avoid it.

2). Primitive Beliefs Or Inequality Gender:
One major reason why marriages collapse or get sour is because most men have not transited from our grandfathers’ era when the man was the lord and the wife was there solely to do the man’s wishes and make him happy by giving him s*x, children, and services like cooking, washing, and maintaining the home.

The man had the right to beat his wife, lock her up, send her away, have as many wives as he wished, sleep with as many mistresses as he liked, father as many children as he liked, without the wife complaining. The society gave the man a blank cheque to do as he wished so long as he provided for his wife and children. It was completely a man’s world. A wife had no opinion.

She dared not talk when her master was talking or join him in a discussion with his friends, his family or kinsmen.

The truth is that, a wife has 101% right over her husband. In as much as she's entitled to be submissive, she's also obligated to make vital opinions where and when necessary.

It's high time men stop seeing women as just s*x toys or chores mercenaries. A woman has a great gender. She's feminine because you (man) cannot do without her. Don't make her feel less human. God created her to be your respectable companion, not your slave.

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7 Signs To Know If Your Partner Truly Loves You.. Must Read!

One question that often rings in your head is "Does s/he truly love me?" Most times, you just can't find an answer to that question and even when you speak to friends about it, they don't come up with something concrete. Here, I've put together, 7 signs that can help you know if your partner truly loves you.

I call them "hard-to-miss" signs because someone who really loves you does them without even knowing - love compels them. Read below..

1. Wants To Spend Time With You:
When someone truly loves you, s/he will do everything they can to spend time with you irrespective of their schedule. Both of you might be occupied due to family, work, or other relevant commitments but someone who truly cares about you will always squeeze out time because they simply can't do without you.

2. 'We' Automatically Replaces 'I':
Someone who loves you includes you in everything s/he does. He plans for both of you which makes them fond of using the word "we" instead of "i". Another word they'll start using is "us". It simply means your lover sees you as part of his/her life.

3. Fighting And Apologizing:
The truth is, you can never know how strong a relationship is until you both have a good fight. Someone who loves you isn't afraid to fight and s/he says "sorry" whenever s/he wrongs you - putting pride aside. No matter who your partner might be outside, no matter his/her status at work, they set pride aside when they're with you.

4. Respects Your Views:
Whenever you speak to your partner, s/he will listen. Someone who loves you will always listen to you no matter how senseless what you're saying might be. S/he listens calmly and corrects you boldly when s/he feels you're wrong.

5. Asks About Your Day:
This is a very obvious way of knowing if your partner truly cares about you. When you guys are together, does your partner ask how you spent your day? Does s/he tries to find out what happened at work? Even if you're not together, such interests keeps communication routes open.

6. Showing Affection:
You don't necessarily need to engage in frequent s*x to be emotionally intimate. However, showing some sign of physical attraction and closeness bonds the both of you. Example, resting your head on her shoulder, frequent hugging or holding hands while walking suggests that your partner feels some vital connection in you.

7. Admires You:

Someone who loves you is quick to admire you. They don't hesitate telling you how good you look and they always thank God for blessing them with you. Someone who hardly notices your new hair-do or shirt cares less about you.

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TIPS: 11 Things You Should Avoid After Breaking Up

No one steps into a relationship with an intention of breaking up but sometimes, it occurs and you have to deal with it. Now what matters is how you deal with it. The things you do after breaking up determines how fast you heal. Most importantly, you don't have to break down because you broke up so here are 11 things you should not do after breakup.

1. Don't Listen To Sad Songs:
Break up songs and their lyrics don’t mean too much to us until we’re going through breakup. If you really want to heal and move on, avoid listening to sad break up songs. Have a good cry, be angry, but listen to something more inspiring and uplifting instead of sad songs.

2. Don't Hurry Into A New Relationship:
After breaking up with your ex, a big part of you is going to miss the companionship you once had.   However, the worst thing you can do after breaking off a relationship is getting into a new one.  This doesn’t give you time to heal or time to regroup and figure yourself out.

3. Trying To Maintain A Friendship:
Trying to maintain a friendship after a fresh break up is never a good idea. It puts all sorts of stress on both of you as you try to somehow remain friends. Work on being friends later on down the line, but right now, focus on healing and focus on yourself.4. Hiding true emotions
After breaking up with a man, you’re bound to feel a rush of emotions. From sadness to anger, confusion and frustration, being emotional after a break up is okay. Emotions only become problematic when you don’t admit them.  Admit and acknowledge your emotions, and release them. There’s no need to fake a smile when you are not happy.

5. Throwing Everything Away:
 If you were with your ex-boyfriend for a good amount of time, it’s likely that he’s bought you some pretty nice gifts. Though you may want to throw away all of these in the heat of the moment, restrain yourself from doing so.

6. Stalking Your Ex:
 Breaking up usually means cutting all contact, which can be really hard to do — and may cause you to go into stalker mode, where you look at your ex’s Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram daily to see what he’s up to and to keep an eye on any new women that he may be talking to. This will only cause you tension and heartache.

7. Destroying Stuff:
 Some break ups aren’t nice ones, to say the least, and many times when a break up isn’t mutual, one partner is angry. If you’re breaking up because of cheating or some other reason, you may feel inclined to ruin your ex’s clothing and other personal items. Though it’s a good way to vent your   frustration, don’t give in to the temptation.

8. Don't Seek Revenge:
Seeking revenge on your ex posting personal pictures all over the Internet will only make you angrier and even more frustrated.  Let your vengeance be in the fact that by breaking up with you, he lost a great partner.

9. Begging to be taken back
When you really love and care about someone, it can be hard to let them go, and this may lead you to think that you can somehow reconcile and make things okay again. After breaking up, don’t beg your partner to take you back.  Accept it for what it is and move on; otherwise you will face more rejection.

10. Staying In Touch:
Once a break up decision is made, there is no need for both of you to communicate at all. Don’t text your partner later that night asking how they are feeling and don’t call the next day asking when you will see them again. Staying in contact only makes healing and moving on harder to realize.

11. Don't Isolate Yourself:
One of the worst things you can do after breaking up with someone is to isolate yourself. This is a point in your life when you need as much support and love as you can get. Don’t separate yourself from friends and family.

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How To Approach A Woman In Public And Win Her Heart

How to approach a girl in public

We have been receiving emails from guys asking how they can boldly approach a girl in public. Some men are naturally shy while some don't even know how to start. The thing is, wooing a girl in public is simple and a lot easier than when she's alone.

Here, we have put this down to help you be a man, Lol. Read carefully to the end.

1. Make Eye Contact:
If you see someone you'd like to meet, try to make eye contact before talking to her. Once you catch her eye, try to maintain eye contact.

If you repeatedly make eye contact with someone, it could be a sign that she wants you to approach her. Three glances from a girl might signal that she's interested.

Why are eyes so powerful? Science seems to suggest that eye contact activates our brain's reward center, the ventral striatum. What does this mean? Our DNA is telling us that someone staring at you is cause for celebration!

Smile. A friendly smile is a great way to show someone that you're interested in them. If she returns the smile, that's a good sign that she might be interested.

Once you've exchanged a few glances and a smile, check her body language. This will give you a better idea if she's actually interested.


2. Check Body Language:
While reading another person's body language, male or female, is NOT an exact science, there are definitely a few behaviors to look for that will signal that the person is not interested in engaging in conversation. Respect the girl's right to be left alone.

Is she facing away from you? Are her arms crossed? Is she listening to music, or reading a book? Is she frowning? Is she specifically looking away from you? While not perfect indicators, expressions and body language like this probably means leave her alone.

Body language is not everything. Women are taught from childhood that they must be pleasant no matter what. If you are going to approach her, pay attention to how she reacts and what she says.


3. Break The Ice:
Start with a simple ice-breaker. Perhaps you are reading the same book, or you noticed she was wearing a shirt that has a band you like. Perhaps the bus is late and you can commiserate with her.

If she doesn't seem interested in talking, leave her alone. There are numerous ways to tell: not making eye contact, monosyllabic answers, looking around for some way out of the conversation.

If she is interested she will make that clear: eye contact, smiling, sometimes leaning closer.

Once you've approached and established that she's interested, proceed to having a conversation.


4. Strike A Conversation:
This might flow naturally out of your ice-breaker comment, but if not there are several ways to have a conversation.

Ask her if she made her earrings/dress/other cool item. You could even say something like "I couldn't help but noticing how your dress matches your eyes. It's a great color." It lets her know that you think she's attractive without dwelling on her looks. Like anyone else, girls like to be appreciated for more than just their appearance.

If you're in a place like a bookstore or comic book store, ask her what her favorite book is.

Be sure to listen when she speaks. You'll find out more about her, have opportunities to further the conversation, and show her that you are interested in her as a person.

5. Make Plans To Meet Again:
If she seems interested and you are still interested, try and make plans for a future meet-up.

Give her your phone number or email address. This way she feels in control of the situation. You'll know for certain that she's interested if she follows up.

Ask for her phone number or email address. If she says no, leave it. She doesn't owe you anything further, even if she did enjoy your company.

Ask her on an instant date. Ask her if she wants to grab coffee somewhere. Always choose a public place for an instant date; you want her to feel comfortable. Have a coffee shop in mind if you do ask, or ask her if she knows a good place. That way she will feel in control of the situation.

6. Be Respectful:
This is the absolute most important part of approaching a girl in public, or in any situation. If she is not interested back off.

Remember, different girls have different tastes in guys, or no taste in guys. One girl might just feel that you're not her type. However, there might be another girl out there who will think you're awesome.

Now that you've finished reading this, feel free to share on your social networks. Your friends will thank you for sharing this piece of info with them. Any questions? Ask below using the comment box. Goodluck guys!

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Top 8 Signs To Know If Your Partner Is Cheating On You

There are quite a handful of ways to know if your spouse/partner is cheating on you but here, I'll discuss just eight (8) of them.

I'm writing this from experience because when I cheated on my partner, I did most of them. Be patient and read through, you'll learn something.

1. "I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You."
Once you hear these words, a big warning bell should sound in your head. This is one of the most common things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings. A cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can screw the way they think.

2. "We are just friends."
This is one sure statement that will come from a cheating partner. If your partner is spending more and more time with this new "friend," then there is obviously more to it than a mere friendship. Your partner may feel they have a lot in common with this person, that this person understands them and things they are going through not knowing such feelings will only push them away from you. Whatever the reasons for the friendship, it's a big warning sign and one you should take seriously.

Also Read: 7 Signs To Know If Your Partner Truly Loves You

3. A sudden need for privacy.
If things the two of you used to share openly suddenly become private pay attention cause something is probably up. When he/she starts to protect their cell phones or computer, my dear, you have to sit-up and be at alert because something fishy is going on. If you ask why or attempt to find out information that used to be common knowledge between the two of you, you will be accused of snooping or trying to control your spouse. Very big warning sign!

4. "I need some space to figure out my feelings."
Men and women who are involved with someone else will request more space, time alone or away from the family. They may say it is due to confusion over their feelings or stress at work. This can be a sign that there is someone else and the spouse is trying to figure out ways to have more freedom.

5. Regular work habits change.
Working late, going to work at odd hours or, putting in more time than is normal on work related issues can be a sign that your partner is giving more time to something else and hides it under the word "Work." Be vigilant when you notice things like this.

6. Secretive phone calls and more time spent on the phone.
Emotional affairs  occur primarily via the phone, especially cell phones. If you find your spouse hanging up suddenly when you enter the room or erasing the history on the cell phone and becoming defensive when asked about it, then you might want to check your phone records.

Read: How to Make A long Distance Relationship Work

7. Behavior that just doesn't add up.
Not being where he/she was expected to be. Missing time they can't explain. Money that isn't accounted for. Receipts for things you don't have. Missing clothing. Clothing that does not belong to your family. Being caught in little lies about the details of the day. If something is off with their behavior, you should suspect cheating .

8. Your Own fears and suspicions
If you find yourself looking for excuses for your spouse's behavior or trying to convince yourself that they would never cheat then that is a warning sign. Your intuition is frequently one of the best indicators that something is wrong. If you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you, do some investigating and then talk to him/her about what you've found. Do it in a way that is calm and courteous. Ask for honesty. Be prepared for lies, it's a natural thing they must lie but it doesn't mean the love isn't there. Sometimes they lie out of respect. Be calm and friendly, they will open up. It is a sad fact that people having affairs become excellent liars. People who never told a lie before in their lives. Trust your gut instinct but get hard, cold proof also.

Now that you've finished reading this, I'm sure you've learnt a great deal and would love your friends to see this too. Simply share this article on your social media and they'll thank you for sharing this secret with them.

Feel free to drop your comments below or ask questions.

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5 Tips On How To Strengthen Your Relationship/Marriage

Having a relationship or getting married is one thing, another thing is keeping it alive and ticking. Before listing the 5 tips, I'll tell you a short story about a friend who kept having misunderstandings with his partner. 

One day, after making several complaints to me, he said, "I'll allow fate decide the outcome of my relationship. ". 

Why did he say that when he loved his woman so much? The reason is that they just weren't getting along and most times, the causes of their fights wasn't worth it. But good enough, after counselling them both, they adjusted and today, they're living happily as couples. 

Talking about how to keep your relationship/marriage alive, there are quite a load of things you should always do but here, I'll mention just 5 important tips that should help you build and maintain a sweet relationship with your partner. 

1. Make Time for Your Relationship/Marriage When Possible:

Try as much as possible to make time for your partner week after week. For couples, having a standing date night can never be a bad idea. Even if you have kids or work week in week out, that shouldn't stop you. Communicate to your kids (if married), friends, everyone, that this night is specially reserved for you and your partner. Keep the date every week and make it your priority, no matter what comes up. 

2. Have Fun and do Pleasurable Things Together:

No matter how dry the fun might happen to be, sharing it and doing pleasurable things together fosters intimacy. A relationship is all about intimacy. Learn to share jokes, meals, funny movies, play times together - including outdoor activities. What matters most is that the activity is pleasurable and fun to you two.

3. Resolve Conflicts ASAP:

ASAP here means As Soon As Possible. I quite agree with you that it could be somewhat difficult to say sorry during a heated argument with your partner but then, try to resolve it as quickly as possible. However, it is easier to go your separate corners after having a fight but you have to know that when conflicts lingers or stays unresolved, it fosters long term hurt and resentment. It's OK for you to disagree with your partner but it's extremely important to find a solution quickly. I mean, as quickly as possible. 

4. Keep the Romance Fire Burning:

In most relationships/marriage, romance isn't an automatic occurrence. Due to our daily activities, time constraints and everyday pressures creates a tendency that robs us of spontaneity. In order to overcome this natural hurdle, romance must be consciously created. Remember, what keeps your relationship fresh and exciting is romance. It keeps the two of you close and makes the bond stronger. 

5. Constant Communication: 
The key to a successful relationship/marriage is "Communication". You don't have to be far from each other before you consider communication skills to be essential in your relationship/marriage. When your spouse/partner is away at work, do check up on him/her. A simple phone call would definitely put a smile on his/her face. You can call to ask if he/she has had breakfast/launch - whatever the scenario might be, always try to build that communication platform. It brings creates a strong bond and makes you both happy. 

In summary, Learn to tolerate. Try and understand your partner and don't forget to resolve conflicts quickly. Implement the above tips and you'll certainly enjoy your relationship/marriage. Meanwhile, the comment box is always open to air your views. 

Later my friend!

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