Relationships and marriages have their ups and downs, how do you deal with them? How much do you contribute to make it work? Here are 4 secrets to a successful relationship/marriage.
This is a simple but powerful guide on how to make your relationship/marriage a successful one.
1. Compromise
In a relationship, it's not just about taking but also giving. If you think you're not giving very much to help your relationship/marriage then you have to try and sniff out the areas to improve on.
A relationship is unequal when one side is taking much and giving less. Even if the giver has enough to offer, s/he will certainly feel bugged. At times, also contribute with the little you can. It shows seriousness and commitment.
2. Communication
Some relationships and marriages die due to lack of discussion. When you can't find a way to freely discuss your problems and emotions with your partner, then your relationship suffers a communication problem and doesn't have a chance to run on a long term.
As partners or couples, you must find a way to communicate freely, openly, regularly and directly. You don't have to wait for arguments before you speak your mind. You can always do that when you're in good terms. It helps. However, doing this in a good and respectful manner is the key to effective communication.
3. Choose Your Battles Carefully
Sometimes, after having a fight with your partner, you'll get to realize the reason for the fight wasn't worth it. Before you allow arguments or fights to ensue, make sure it is worth it. Don't fight over worthless issues.
Example, a friend recently called me on the phone, she asked, "Kay, I'm having a serious fight with my man and we can't seem to sort it out, what do I do?" First of all, I asked her what was the reason for their fight and funny enough they were fighting over football clubs. I just laughed her off my phone because that wasn't worth a fight.
Do you really want to start a fight with your partner because s/he bought you the wrong bathing soap? Do you want to fight him/her for mistakenly burning your shirt while ironing? Come on, there are many important things to fight over, not less important things.
These days, so many couples fight over the dumbest things. Try to avoid this.
4. Don't Underestimate Trust & Honesty
As humans differ, so as different people have different areas of concerns but it's understandable that everyone wants trust and honesty from their partner. Why? Because your partner should be the only person in the world you can fully depend on without doubts.
However, as long as trust and honesty issues are concerned, you have to understand when they matter most because virtually everyone tells a little lie (especially when dating).
Focus on big things that matters. Example, if they say they're a medical doctor and you later discover they don't even know the drug that fights headache, or if they claim they like kids but later refuse to have one with you.
Now, you have them - 4 secrets to a successful relationship or marriage.
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if ur partner buys u a wrong soap or body lotion, that is a good reason to fight about, isn't she/he happy with ur own or did they mistakenly confuse u with the side chick or maybe am I the "side chick"?
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